“If we put bits into the mouths of horses so that they obey us, we guide their whole bodies as well. Look at the ships also: though they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are guided by a very small rudder wherever the will of the pilot directs. So also the tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great things. How great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire! And the tongue is a fire, a world of unrighteousness. The tongue is set among our members, staining the whole body, setting on fire the entire course of life, and set on fire by hell. For every kind of beast and bird, of reptile and sea creature, can be tamed and has been tamed by mankind, but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse people who are made in the likeness of God. From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so. Does a spring pour forth from the same opening both fresh and salt water? Can a fig tree, my brothers, bear olives, or a grapevine produce figs? Neither can a salt pond yield fresh water.”
I don’t know about anyone else but, this is a very challenging passage to my heart and soul. Forgive me if I’m wrong but, I honestly feel that women struggle with the tongue more than men. We do talk 4x more than they do!(approx.) I have been struggling with my tongue since I could say, “ma-ma”.
-When I was young it would get me in BIG trouble. I would sass my mama and get in a heap of trouble.
-When I was a teenager…well, it was even worse. Man, I had some zingers! Back then, I was proud of those zingers but, now I see them for what they truly were.
-As a wife, oh man. There are so many times when my speech is used for evil. I discourage instead of build up. I question the authority of my husband instead of submitting to his leadership of our home. I wound instead of using words that could help heal.
-As a mom…I am struggling. I am short with my words. I can be unkind to those who I am called to love unconditionally. I am harsh when I should be gentle. I use angry words instead of the right calm, quiet answer.
So, this passage hit home this morning. Without God…I can do nothing. The tongue cannot be tamed by me…or you!
The tongue can only be tamed or controlled by the Holy Spirit’s doing.
So, I want some input. How do you personally work on your speech to make it holy? What verses do you cling to and hide in your heart?
I am thinking of a speech accountability/challenge if anyone is interested at all. I need it so I’m thinking maybe others do too.